Sex sucks AND abdominal pain days after?
I just began having sex Jan 23rd. I love the man, he’s very attractive, so sweet, but the sex is horrible. I don’t feel anything good, and I told him I don’t.. I let him do his part, but what’s wrong with me? I don’t want to be boring or just fake for him. Fingering or oral doesn’t feel that good.. very rarely. Also.. the first two times he didn’t finish and we just stopped, but he didn’t wear a condom. I was also ovulating this week and got scared and took plan b just in case, but I’ve had lower abdominal pain since I started having sex. What is this from? I’ve had him wear a condom all the other times.
Any advice or what we could do to make it fun and enjoyable?
Any idea why I’m having the ab pains like cramps?
***neither of us have stds, were clear.
And I’m very shy & unsure what in doing. I planned on waiting till marriage and perhaps that plays a role since I am a Christian and have always been against pre marital sex.
First, you need to give your body a rest so you fully heal from soreness, etc. Taking Plan B was probably a good idea and it may add to your cramps.
You need to relax and be fully aroused. He needs to be focused on your pleasure – foreplay, (oral sex, touching, kissing, etc) be fully aroused or better yet, you having an orgasm FIRST or using a lubricant like KY-Jelly or Astro-Glide can help.
If you are having sex (giving in to him, letting him do his thing) to please him, that’s not good. You need to be in the mood, wanting sex, turned on for it to work well. Maybe you don’t have sexual chemistry with him?
